PJs or floaty white dress?
Lazy, hazy days without the school run. How w.o.n.d.e.r.f.u.l. No sense of urgency.You can have a lie in – such a treat, especially if you have been up in the night ( and what parent is not up in the night ?) Believe me parents are very busy in the night.
How to fill your day.
In my naivety when I had a baby, I thought I would be entering the perfect sort of TV advert mama world, where I would look immaculate in a minimalistic sort of way, drifting around in a floaty white dress, perhaps pegging out white sheets on the line along side dinky – doo pink babygros – all billowing in the breeze. What a delightful picture.
I had no actual concept of how my days as a mama were going to pan out – I was thinking along the line of a few feeds, lots of naps when my baby slept in his moses basket with his little sheets covered with hearts, and a lifetime of cuddles.
Is that what you are thinking too?
I was a midwife first before I had my babies – so you would have thought I would have known the score.
But dreams are priceless – and don’t we all have them??
Delicious baby days…
To get dressed or stay in pjs until noon – your choice – what freedom!
Feeding baby and eating breakfast – in – a – kinda- one – handed – way, and then back for a sleep. (Maybe for both of us). It feels good to have a sleep when your baby sleeps in those early blurry learning newly discovering days. More feeds..and fresh nappies…and cuddles…and then that beautiful special newsworthy day when my new-eyed little boy started to smile. Not a full smile at first, just a trying-it-out-in-the-corner-of-his-mouth-half-smile. Was it my imagination, or was it the beginning of my little boy’s incredible smile and sense of humour?.
Then the whole smile.
And the way he talked back to me with gurgles and coos and giggles, and yes the bottom lip came out too. Even “The Lip” was hilarious. He doesn’t do it now, but his lips are so expressive, and I can tell if he’s telling me – let’s say not quite the whole story by the way he twitches his lips.
Don’t mamas know their children so well?
That was a shout-it-from-the-roof-tops-champagne-red-letter-day.
- use an on-line grocery shop
- bulk buy nappies (if not using re-usable ones)
- ask mama-in-law/partner’s mama to pop round with some afternoon tea
- don’t look at jelly belly – it will go
- do post-natal exercises
- ask partner to cook supper
- marvel at how c.l.e.v.e.r you both are.
WELL DONE YOU!!!!!
Be gentle with yourselves. Don’t run before you can walk. Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Try not to have an agenda – let the day shape itself.
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